Why Children are Unhappy with our Parenting Styles?

Is this possible to make them satisfied with our parenting practices?

What do we require as parents for a child’s physical, mental, intellectual, and emotional, social development?

Did you ever ponder upon?

Have  you ever analyzed your behavior patterns?

Did you ever think about fostering  the emotional and spiritual intelligence of your child?

Your answer might be “Yes” or “No”.

 But I believe that you are surely concerned about your kids’ growth, whatever form or shape your concern is! Whether you have explored it or not, you are connected with the ideas of raising them in the best manner!   Parenting is hard; parenting is challenging. There are imperfections with us, we have little knowledge about parenting styles. Mostly we come to learn things when trauma has passed and we meet the results of what we had been as parents.

In this very article I, as an evolutionary anthropologist, would like to share with future parents the practical suggestions and intuitive parenting approach that emphases on seeing the toddler as a whole person from the foundation. If you are ready to conduit the venerated perception of parenthood and be real, you are going to find everything you need on my blog.

At the first step we need to learn why children don’t listen to us to make them listen. This might be the result of negative parenting. What is this destructive feature of parenting? Let’s have a discussion about!

There are 7 factors of negative parenting. There are 7 Reasons “Why Children Don’t Listen to Their Parents.” Parents often think what are the factors which make their children hard to listen to you?

Ethical issues

There is a difference or contradiction in what we say and what we do. We mostly talk in frustration and anger. We manipulate situations. Our moral weaknesses are exposed. The parents who are thus exposed cannot get obeisance. Children do not follow if they don’t trust their parents. Child observes you constantly. Do care that he is observing more than he is not listening to you. If you are morally weak, you cannot become your child’s ideal or super hero. You cannot have the desired respect.

Psychological issues

When we come to spot light on parenting styles, we find it  very hard for some parents to stay cool and calm. They cannot speak softly. They can’t stay relaxed. Most of the children did not see their parents smiling. They found them with undue arrogance and irrational strictness; don’t seem to be happy. Observance of complaining attitude and ungratefulness is unhealthy practice. This leads us to unfold the  impacts of parenting styles and our  negative practices.

They don’t seem to be contented and grateful. To express gratefulness is different than to be in the actual state of gratitude. Their body language shows complaining demeanor. Whereas the sense of gratitude shows psychological health. He seems to be contented. He maintains his state of happiness.  His body language reflects the contentment. He is not grateful because he doesn’t seem to be happy. He observes serious sort of psychological issues.

Linguistic ability

Parents have weak linguistic ability. Your first language should be marvelous. Language skill leaves a great impact.  Our meaning does not become clear when we speak because of wrong choice of words. There should be a careful choice of words. We are usually very reckless in our choice of words. If we deliver a right comment but with wrong choice of words, we destroy the whole impact. Words don’t match our intentions. We are unable to convey our real meaning due to linguistic inability.

Intellectual ability

The psychological need of a child is to consider his parents the most prudent and ideal personality till their adulthood. If later, he finds his parents following the trends in society rather following their knowledge and wisdom.  Due to social trends, parents take great decisions on account of social trends. Many a parents lack in wisdom and prudence. This aspect disappoint children. Knowledge doesn’t mean degree but the desire to probe and learn which is not dependent upon any degree. Such parents are deprived of the close connection of their children.

Linguistic competence of a child

The child whose language is not developed, he can also not listen to his parents. It becomes hard for him to communicate. It is very important to enhance his first language. He must have developed the ability to understand his first language fully. Being bilingual or trilingual mars the ability to express real emotion. They cannot express their true feelings. Their thought process did not develop due to inability in their first language.

A frustrated child

If a child is entangled and is a victim of confused thoughts, he will not listen to you.

Weak parental filial relationship

A child wants intellectually appealing content. Our society produces segregated elements.

Every word, facial expression, gesture, or action on the part of a parent gives the child some message about self-worth, someone sys wisely.

https://www.blissquote.com/2018/09/best-inspirational-parenting-quotes.html

Parents need to fill a child’s bucket of self-esteem so high that the rest of the world can’t poke enough holes to drain it dry. – Alvin Price

This discussions leads us to know about greater goals of parenting. I recommend  further reading:

https://ethicsedu.com/what-are-goals-of-parenting/